Unlocking Empowerment: How Letting Go of Others' Opinions Transformed My Life

I just stopped caring! It's as simple as that. I stopped worrying about what people thought of me, and the feeling of reaching that point is incredibly empowering. When you stop caring, you truly recognize your worth and qualities. Whether at work or in interactions with clients, that self-assurance is enough.

If you've attended one of my sessions, you know my personal story. Growing up, I believed my mum’s misfortune—or rather, her perceived lack of luck—affected us. Her divorce left her broken, constantly reminding me that luck wasn't in our favor. She taught me to cling to any good thing fiercely, to work hard to attain it, and even harder to keep it.

This mindset, however, is not the best work ethic. As an entrepreneur, I equated long hours with success and believed being likable and meeting every customer's need was crucial. Weekend and evening calls were routine for me. But this approach is unsustainable. It led to immense stress, making me feel like a robot on autopilot, constantly running without pause.However, when I embarked on my self-love journey, began listening to my intuition, and connected more deeply with myself, everything changed. I started to embrace my authentic self. I felt comfortable in my own skin and, most importantly, safe in being myself and speaking my truth. It felt like I had finally claimed my spot.

Old patterns still get triggered occasionally, and when that happens, I work to understand the triggers and address them. Recently, a client’s impatience triggered my old habits. My negative self-talk resurfaced, telling me I should have done things differently. Recognizing this, I stepped back, connected with my inner wisdom, and identified it as negative self-talk. This awareness transformed my relationship with the client and, more importantly, changed how I felt around them—I felt relaxed and authentically myself.

I’ve learned that self-worth comes from within and isn’t dictated by others. When you embrace who you are and feel truly connected, you become unstoppable. The journey to self-acceptance and love is challenging but incredibly rewarding. You stop seeking validation from others because you know you are enough.

Remember, it’s okay to stop caring about what others think. It’s okay to prioritize your mental and emotional well-being. When you do, you’ll find a sense of peace and empowerment that allows you to thrive in every aspect of your life. You deserve to be happy, fulfilled, and confident. Embrace your worth, set your boundaries, and live authentically. You owe it to yourself.

One self-love practice I absolutely adore is simple yet profound. Go to a mirror, look yourself in the eye, place a hand on your heart, and repeat, "I love you, I love you." Keep repeating it until you believe it, and eventually, you will even feel it.